I made peace with my past.

Yes, it’s not possible for me to just forget what I’ve been through or deny it but I made peace with my past.

What’s done is done and I’m going to try not to hold grudge against those who put me in that position. I can’t change what happened and neither can they. 

From now on, I’m just going to look forward and try to get over it because it is the only way to be happy. I’m going to start over!

Can you be friends with your ex?

In my opinion, this is a matter that depends on lots of things.

Length

It depends on how long you’ve been together with that person. If you’ve been together for a long time, it will be tough to put all the memories behind and start acting like you are nothing more than friends. If you shared a lot with that person, it is likely to hurt to see them as a friend after the relationship ends.

Break-up

It also depends on how you two broke up. Did it end with a fight or was it a mutual decision? Were two of you really wanted to end it or one of you wasn’t happy anymore? Did you fall out of love or something was wrong in the relationship? Did any of you said or did things to end it? Was it one of your fault? Do one of the person keeps on loving the other? Relationships are messy and if it ended in a bad way, it is either impossible for you to become friends or it will take a long time to forgive & forget and finally move on with mutual respect.

Post break-up

What happened after the break up? Did one of you started being with someone else soon after the break up? Did you try to take revenge? Did any of you behaved badly or spilled their secrets? Is one of you in pain while the other is having the time of their life? Are you being careful to not hurt their feelings with your actions or words? Are you treating them in a way that they never meant anything to you or your relationship was worthless? Are you acting in a way that you don’t even know that person anymore? Are you being respectable and supportive towards the other person? Are you spreading rumours? How are you responding when people ask you about your relationship or personal stuff about the other person? 

Well, it is tough but it’s not impossible. Like I said, it depends on many things and even though it may hurt at times, if it’s meant to be- it will be. It really depends on your actions towards the other and the fabric of the relationship from the start.

Tumblr changes people.

Tumblr is an amazing way to meet new people, share your thoughts, learn new things, explore your thoughts, and a getaway from the reality to express your true feelings.

For me, it was my getaway. I started my blog with sharing vintage pictures, trying to get followers, show my ideas etc. But when I fell into depression, it became my getaway path. None of my followers knew me in actual life so I poured my heart out. The thing is, tumblr changed me. 

First, I was relieved to know people out there shared my feelings and were going through similar things as I did. However, seeing those things was not beneficial for me. It triggered me, it pulled me down further. It wasn’t good for me, it was making my situation worse.

So I’ve decided to change the content of my tumblr. I always shared what was on my mind but along the way, this became a depression blog. From now on, I’m not going to do that anymore. I want to get better and I don’t want the people who follow me worsen their situation by looking at the things I post. From now on, I will post my opinions and reblog the things I like and what I feel at that moment.

Sure, some of the people only follow me because of the content of my blog and I don’t mind if those people will unfollow me because it is time for me to change and leave my past behind. 

Tomorrow can be too late